Let's be on our tows... Take Home #452

Irrespective of how successful a person is, at no point of time in life it can be taken for granted that he or she is correct always, which is also practically and humanly not possible! Better be aware of this fact and be on our tows in deciding anything. 

Wear Seat belt... Pic of the day #16

Car has almost become a necessity these days. Even though the public transportation is good enough, having a car ourselves gives us a lot of flexibility in terms of planning the travel or fulfilling an unplanned travel. While having a car and knowing the driving is a necessity,  wearing seat belt is compulsory. Although there is a warning on the display device, still many a people ignore it as if it's for nothing. Doing so in not just bad but can be proven dangerous for you and your co-passengers. It's made mandatory these days and at most of the times the drivers, especially the tempo, bus or truck drivers, wear it only when they see a traffic police in a distance. To get rid of the seat belt indication, they keep the belt buckled and sit over it! They are actually sitting over a 'danger' even though they feel like they have got rid of the red symbol for that moment. 

Usually children prefer to place themselves in the front seat on the co-passenger side. Firstly, children must be avoided seating there. And if they cannot be avoided from seating there, they must be seated along with at least an adult. If that's also not possible, as I understand from many of my friends who have kids, there are child seats available for infants and younger kids. It must be made available. Kids of four to ten years must be wearing seat belts even though they don't like it. It's about safety and parents must take care. Parents themselves must wear it at all the times in front of their kids in the car. 

Seat belt is a great invention. Let's utilize it fully. Its about safety and after all, what else matters while driving or for that matter living? Drive safe and be safe. 

When you realise... Take Home #451

When you realise that what you're is what made by many people, situations and your brought up, you will easily understand that same is the case for every other person and you will easily appreciate or forgive everyone. 

Be thirsty... Take Home #450

Having the thirst to deliver and having the capability to deliver are two different aspects. Those who have thirst or both thirst and capability often get succeeded in delivering the expected. But those with only capability and no thirst often get failed. Not having the capability is a limitation but not having the thirst is a limitation and as well as a mistake. 

Be thirsty to deliver. Rest all fall in place including the time. 

Inequality is bad but the modern age "Feminism" is rapidly getting dangerous

Disclaimer: The below are my personal views and not against anyone in person or against any organization's ideology. Any offence felt is apologized sincerely. 

Feminism was one of the most important social movements of the nineteenth century. While achieving equal rights for women with that of men was its goal, giving women the necessary freedom and self-confidence was the byproduct. Initially started in the western countries and it slowly influenced the other regions of the world rapidly. A few generations suffered before the feminist movement, a couple of them suffered during the movement, and this generation of women are definitely enjoying the fruits, if not everyone but certainly a few of them. Women are now into every field, from agriculture to aerospace, from manufacturing to marketing, from administration to the army, you name any field, women have their place and opportunity. 

So, all set then? Do we still need feminism? Although the opportunities are there everywhere, there is still no acceptance in all social groups, in all regions across the world, to allow women to pursue their interests and hence to grab their opportunities. To increase the awareness that gender equality is the way forward for a better society and future, we need the activists who go around and put forward their points. We indeed need the volunteers or associations that can work round the clock around the world to free up the suffocating rules written for women in certain regions. It will take time but it has to change at some or the other point of time. But if Feminism is the only way is the question. 

If it was the original Feminist movements that started all this, then probably I would have said 'yes'. But now, my answer is 'No', because the so called 'Feminism' that we are experiencing today is not the intended "Feminism". This one is something else, and this is my understanding though. The modern age Feminism is becoming so dangerous day by day that it fears me at times if there will have to start a 'Menism' at certain point of time in future, although this exist today yet unpopular. Everything shall stop some where so as Feminism! When the feminism shall stop? Only after a long and a generation full of fight between Feminism and Menism? That will be the worst time to live for our next generation, only if that happens so and I hope it won't ever. 

The understanding of many people, who call themselves as Feminists, is actually a lot deviated from that of the originally intended feminist views. There was no hatred towards men, firstly, when it all started. They respected the way the society was and on top of that they wanted certain opportunities for themselves, for all women. The modern age Feminism appears to be propagating the hatred toward men and even more fearful is that they believe what they are doing is right without leaving room for any introspection. This hatred towards men is raising so swiftly that we see a lot of effects of modern 'Feminism' in our day to day lives. Many understand that suing a man is Feminism. Many do understand that a man cannot be superior to a woman, in any aspect, and that its the goal of Feminism. Many question that why a woman shall do this and not a man, and that's Feminism for them! 

Whether its a man or woman, before being so, he or she is a human, who fully deserves every possible liberation. But depending upon the social and regional cultures which have been getting followed, everyone is put on with some restrictions. Inspite of knowing the restrictions, if anyone is breaching the rules, it's punishable offence, be it a man or a woman. Its just not that a man is guilty for an acid attack on a woman, a woman attacking a man is also equally guilty as both man and woman possess equal rights to live and none can attack the other. The feminist movement can try to enlighten the restrictions that are put on women, but its also important to question and hence change the restrictions put on a man if they are senseless! The restrictions against a man need not wait until the restrictions put on women are taken off. The problematic rules for men need not hang on until all the problematic rules against women are ruled out! Let's be human first! 

Let's be human first. Be it for a man or woman, a liberated life is well deserved. Whatever that prevents them from having their own lives needs to be addressed. Man or woman, the guilty must be punished. There is no need to make pity faces for a woman who cries against a man without listening to the story from two sides. All of us are very good in misinterpreting, man or woman its the same. All of us are good in exaggerating, all of us are good in taking things personally. So, let's not jump at the conclusions without knowing the entire context. Not necessarily every time a woman is correct. Not necessarily a man is guilty all the time in the argument between a man and a woman.  Everyone can be right or at least have a probability to be right! We must get the facts at hand and no need to play the judge. We need not react, we can respond after knowing it fully and thoroughly. And, we all might not have to respond at all, may be! 

Inequality is bad. But the modern age 'Feminism' is rapidly getting dangerous .  Better be human and play human. Equal rights to every human being must be assured, does not matter man or woman. Benefit of doubt is well deserved by everyone, be it a man or a woman, in a given situation. 

Let's be human, think human and act human. Gender comes next and shall come next. 

Better touch... Take Home #449

When you realize that your touch is getting better and better with time, know that you are on right path and be inspired by the fact that you are heading towards perfection. Keep up the good work. 

PS: I just gone through all my earlier posts and realized that my writing had been getting better and better with time. Also, I'm proud of myself that I've maintained my blog over all these years irrespective of what's been happening in my personal and professional life. I'll try to keep this up. Thanks to all readers and friends for being with me. 

Not a big deal... Take Home #448

Nothing is a big deal when you are determined enough. There might be certain failures, but your attempt shall be sufficient enough to satisfy yourself although it might not be sufficient enough to complete the task at times. Because, anything can be started by one but not everything can be completed by one! 

Comeback... Take Home #447

Success gets applauds around you. Defeat gets pats on your back. Applaud can come unconsciously as anyone can congratulate. But pat comes only consciously, as not everyone can understand you and believe. Remember those who pat on your back in defeat. All that you can return them is your 'comeback'. 

Half hearted involvement... Take Home #446

Half hearted involvement neither fetches you anything nor takes you to success. Whatever and however is the game, get involved fully to the core not just to fetch success but also to gain experience. And to get involved in any game, it's important to know it's rules. At the same time, it's equally important to know the risks of breaking any rules. 

Intentions...!

Intentions, good or bad, are  not always understood as they are. 

Be aware that you may be good in your intention but the way you communicate and the time when you communicate are going to play the major role in making the other person understand you. If you are not understood properly, you definitely are responsible too! Of course it has to be highlighted and sorted out with the other person by discussing but before that, work upon your own action plan about what you must improve.

PS: This worked for me! Thought of sharing it here. 

The transition phase... Take Home #445

While a process is in a transition phase, everyone involved must be patient as much as possible. Everyone setting up the process must understand and show the urgency and shall keep communicating the updates to everyone involved or impacted. There can be an emotional outbreak at times due to the unequal patience levels of people, but the same must as well be understood and resolved in a relatively calm manner rather than by hook and crook. 

Path breaking... Take Home #444

One cannot always be path-breaking or path-making. Understanding and following the path that's already made is necessary to be on the par. And while doing that, one must look to add value which shall result eventually into path breaking making scenarios. 

Clarify it... Take Home #443

Own up the responsibility of clarifying it to everyone that you cannot be taken for granted. This shall be made clear to others by  doing the necessary rather than just saying it. There is no particular way in which one can clarify it to others. It varies on case to case basis. You are the right judge! 

Farewell "Sanga" and "Clarke"...!

When a champion player is playing his retiring match, win and loss become redundant. Ending on a winning note matters but not to a greater extent, I feel. The life time memories he accumulates by playing the game over a long period of time overshadows the bitter memories, if any, of his last match if his team or he loses it. The disappointment is obviously there but it cannot impact either the player or the game much! A champion is a champion irrespective of winning or losing! 

Two of the great players of the game 'cricket' retired during the week. One on a winning note and the other on losing. While its the solid Australian player 'Michael Clarke' who ended it on a winning note in the last test of the famous Ashes series which Australian lost to England, its the Srilankan great 'Kumar Sangakkara' who ended it on a losing note in his last test for his country. Indian team has done an exceptionally good job in the match though, congratulation to the team. 

Both the players have made contribution to the game of cricket by representing their respective countries on the world stage. While Clarke had a short career comparatively, Sangakkara had a relatively longer one and needless to say that his is the name comes to our mind when we start thinking about the players who have made their clear mark on the game. Sangakkara-Jayawardane was my favorite pair for quite some time. Said to be friends and team mates played for each other and for the country in many a matches. Losing both these players in a short span of time will impact the Srilankan cricket for sure, provided the youngsters live upto the situation. 

What Clarke could achieve and Sanga did not or could not is to be in the one day internal world cup winning squad. Its a team game but not being able to achieve the world cup might disappoint Sanga! Clarke lead the young Australian team to win the world cup in 2015 in front of the home crowd. After Pointing, doing this was not easy and unexpected too! But his team raised upto the situation and won the ultimate trophy of cricket. Anyway, this cannot be any reason to differentiate or compare these two players. Both of them are greats in their own ways! 

Giving farewell is not easy but needs to be given at the right occasion. Both these players, I think, have taken right decision at right time. Farewell Sanga and Clarke. Congratulations to you on your wonderful cricketing careers. Hoping to see you guys in the IPL! 

Coconut water... Pic of the day #15

A childhood memory comes to my mind every time I think of coconut. I was in my tenth standard then and was preparing for the board examinations. The exams were held in summer, that was during the second half of March month. The temperatures in my hometown were so high then that we used to get exhausted so quickly. The board exams were held for a duration of two weeks. During that time, my grand ma gave me a glass of coconut water every day. As like many other kids, I never liked the taste of coconut water. Just to satisfy my grand ma and parents, I started to drink them in a span of few seconds by closing down as many senses as possible for those seconds. That was the first time ever I'd consumed so much of coconut flavor. 

As the days progressed and as the taste of coconut started sinking in me, I started liking them slowly. Immediately after my tenth class, I was put into hostel. There coconut water was not available much and it took me almost six years to again experience the taste of coconut water on back to back days for few days. That was when I was in Delhi for my post graduation. The heat in Delhi was so killing that I had to take some coconut water everyday to get rid of the heating effect! There also, we used to walk all along to reach to a coconut shop. But once I realized the advantages of coconut water, I started taking them with interest. Now, coconut water is one of my favorite drinks. Although, drinking the coconut water appears to me as if I'm in some health trouble, still I manage to have them every now and then. That reduces the body heat! 

The cost of a coconut, as I remember it from my childhood days, used to be 5 rupees. Later for some years it stayed at 10 rupees. Then it became fifteen rupees. For the first time ever I paid 20 rupees for a coconut was when I first came to Pune. 20 rupees appeared very high. Over a short period of time, the price jumped to a whopping 30 rupees. Well, it's been since quite sometime now that the price of a coconut is 30 rupees. Hoping to see it standing there for a few more years! 

The tiny little world of everyone!

Everyone in this gigantic world constructs one's own tiny world around oneself. It can be about the work one does, the people one meets or values, or the intentions and ideas one possesses.  That tiny world appears as if its everything to an individual! A success in that tiny world satisfies as if the whole world is conquered. A joy of that little world gives immense pleasure that the rest of the world appears tiny. A sorrow of that tiny world disappoints as if the whole world is struct against. A failure in that world can depress to an extent that the whole world appears to be working against. This is the fact at the end of the day and is applicable for almost everyone, though exceptions can be there as always.

Having created our own world, we must also respect the path of others. We must give enough space for others to live their life the way they want to. Does not matter what's the relation between two, each one deserves the independence. Each one deserves their own time, although time must be spent together. It's all personal. Life is personal. One's own interests, one's own thoughts, one's own emotions plat major role and no one has any right to play with them or obstruct them. As much as one can, everyone shall try to let the others live the way they want. Everyone has a right to suggest, comment, appreciate and criticize. But no one has a right to command! While demanding someone to do something, it might appear that what we are doing is very right for that person, for many other people but ultimately what we think is what we believe in. There can be completely different perspective that can help the other persons in a far better way!

So, better we let live. Better the tiny little world of everyone is respected although not understood. Better people are allowed the way they deserve to live their own lives. After all, chance is only one for everyone to live! 

Rajdhani Thaali... Pic of the day #14

There is this 'Amanora town centre' in Hadapsar, Pune. We had been there today in the afternoon. We mainly went there to have something for lunch as we went to Hadapsar on some personal work. Although the colourful stalls and big hoardings about discounts tried to distract me, I still walked around to find a good food stall. We saw the hotel "Rajdhani". It said unlimited Thaali for 299/-. We entered and were seated in a corner table for two. 

There were two big elliptical steel plates on the table, in which few small bowls were kept. We thought they might come and fill those bowls with all items. The waiter came with a welcome drink, and it was 'Sweet Lussy'. It tasted good! And then, the items started coming in. A few varieties of food items were served in a span of just five minutes. The waiters said the name of every item before serving, this was good! I liked the small Bhaakris and the smallest paranthas I'd even seen. 

After a few rounds of serving, our stomachs came to a stage where we jokingly said to each other that if the waiter came again to ask if we required something, we would say that we needed some time to compete the items that had been already served. May be, for the waiters the expressions like ours were normal. Really, after eating all that and all those varieties, we were full till our throats literally. Still, those waiters continued to come and asked if we needed anything more, all in smiles. Their smiles appeared more kidding and less sarcastic. That's the hotel manners, may be. We quietly refused to have anything more! We ate almost twenty varieties in unlimited fashion as part of the Thaali which included a fabulously tasting Butter Milk.

We came out of the restaurant of course after paying! As I write this, I realise that we did not put the tip amount! Well, next time for sure we will remember and do the needful. Above is the picture of the hotel advertisement in which the Thaali is shown. 

Giving the best... Take Home #442

Whatever may the situation is, whatever may the competetion is, whatever may the significance of the result is, giving hundred percent is a wise thing to opt for. You never know what might come your way! Try to give your best at all the times. Nevertheless, giving one's best at all the times is more an attitude and less a choice! 

The EAMCET exam day as I remember!

This day reminds me of the day I wrote the EAMCET examination. It was after the second year of intermediate that we had to give that exam to get an entrance into the engineering colleges in Andhra Pradesh. 

Those two years of my intermediate are the toughest years of my life so far! I stayed in hostel in a corporate college in Vijayawada. It was for the first time that I stayed away from home and that too in hostel. Hostel life is a different topic which I will mention in a separate post. The preparation for the intermediate board exam and the EAMCET exam used to go on back to back, first intermediate syllabus and then the other one's. Classes used to start at 6 am in the morning. With a glass of milk we used to enter the class room early in the morning. At times, when there was time I along with some friends used to stare at the greenery around before entering the class, as we had been told by someone that looking at greenery in the morning would reduce the drowsiness. To complete the punishing syllabus we could not go to bed on time and avoiding the drowsiness was obvious! 

I must say that the early morning classes were the easy ones to concentrate. Lectures used to find it difficult at times as some of the students used to sleep a lot in between. May be, the greenery did not have it's impact on them! Sipping the milk from glass used to be my favourite thing apart from writing down the notes. After breakfast, the classes used to go on until the lunch hour unless there was some lecturer absent. Actually, even if the lecturer was absent, the mentor of the respective subject used to enter the class to answer or doubts if any! How the students of other sections used to treat them was known to me only through my roommates, as I personally always had been in section A, the toppers' one. In our section, the students never used to let the mentor paid for free! Every mentor used to be seen surrounded by students with doubts. I did not wonder about it then, but if I recollect it now, I truly feel it was a wonder indeed. 

During the lunch hour, we were allowed to go to our rooms, to do our own tasks for a duration of 2 hours which included the lunch. After the lunch break and until the snacks break in the evening, there used to be study hours. After the snacks break and until 11'o clock in the night the study hours would continue. Again, it did not appear ridiculous then, but now I feel so about it. No time for our personal interests at all, it feels good that I did not do blogging then! We were always told one thing for sure that those were the two years we had to study and just study and later on it would be easier! This did not appear funny then, rather it appeared true! Exams at the end of every week and sometimes after holidays ensured the college administration know whom to be concentrated upon more so that the college would secure top ranks in the state in various exams. 

With this routine for almost two years, we were made ready for the final exams. After the state board exams, the EAMCET was scheduled. It was in the mid summer, in the horrible month of May! Parents were informed that they should come and take their kids for the respective exam centres. College administration used to arrange busses for all centres during the board exams, but for the EAMCET, parents were to do that. Till date, I do not get any idea why! My parents came a day before. They met me in the campus and left. At that time the pressure was so high that I did not know how to express it! How to convey it! I still remember, my mom told me that I was appearing cool with no pressure. She said that I was so probably because we were made used to the pressure times with the whopping number of exams conducted every week continuously. For that moment I said yes, because I too thought it was so! The actual scene started on the next day morning, on the day of the exam. 

Parents started coming in the morning to take their children to the exam centres. My parents came too. We friends exchanged best wishes and started to the exam centres. Some friends still had books in their hands while wishing others. It was not an open book exam, so they had to leave the books before entering the exam hall. So, they took the books along with them to the centres. My centre was probably a school as I remember it now. We reached the centre well before the start time of the exam. I did not take any books with me. My parents being teachers themselves understood it, unlike the parents of some of my friends who insisted to carry books. The school was open first to all so that the exam room could be searched! We went inside and confirmed the room and came back. All the students entered the exam centre while the parents stayed outside, when the first bell rang. 

What happened inside the exam room was nothing different from that of what used to happen in the other mock tests we wrote. But the fact that it was the final exam did hit me. The fact that there would be no second chance did impact me psychologically. But all that was only until the time I involved myself in answering the questions and of course, in between for a short while every time. As usual, the time was short to answer the physics questions so went ahead by marking some 2's and some 3's just to finish it off. Fortunately, there was no negative marking and I don't think its implemented still. Exam was over and the overall idea I had was that I did not do well, and that the paper was relatively tough. I came out along with all other students. Met my parents outside, who had been waiting along with other parents. I nodded quickly indicating that the exam was not too bad and not good too! We took an auto to cone back to the college campus. In the auto I remember crying a bit outside and a lot inside. A feeling that I probably did not do well pinched me very hard! Anyway, I managed it. 

After reaching the hostel, many of the friends kept saying that the paper had appeared tough for them too and that they did not do well too. Amidst all this I remember a parent saying that we must simply say that the exam was OK and just should move on. Those words had a deep impact on me. From then onwards I started saying that it was OK and immediately I noticed the change in my emotions. I started feeling better. I went to pack my luggage, and my parents went to meet our principal to convey thanks for joining me with a huge concession, of course because of my good performance in SSC exam, but still thanking the college management was imporant since they joined me for almost free and took good care of me all throughout two years. Probably, my parents were the only ones to meet the principal on that last day of ours. I remember my dad saying later that our principal sir felt happy when my parents thanked him and conveyed best wishes. I felt good that my parents met him although I had no expectation of that sort. The only regret I have today about that incident is that I did not go along with my parents to meet principal sir. Anyway, that's fine. It's a learning rather. 

So,  that's my experience with the day I wrote EAMCET exam. Whatever and however it felt then, it still feels good to write about it. May be that's why they say that past is always good! 

Mental strength!

The more you are stronger mentally, the more the tasks that appear easy to you. Do not judge anyone's effort by the way they do things easily or effortlessly. While coming to a judgement about anyone's efforts, take their mental strength into consideration. 

Ignoring the metal toughness and judging people, only by the efforts that they put in or by the extra hours they spend, encourages everyone to show off and eventually make them fake in front of the person who judges them!

Mental strength includes the determination, fearlessness, strong belief and self-confidence etc aspects. Certain people develop them naturally over a period of time! Not having these is not anyone's mistake but a limitation. And not trying to improve upon these is a definite mistake, I think! 

Pass it on... Take Home #441

Pass on the appreciation duly to the deserved. It raises the motivation level and hence the team spirit as it acts as an assurance that deserved gets the deserved. 

Assistance... Pic of the day #13

Necessity is the mother of invention. Needless to say that it's very aptly said. Innovations come out of necessity basically. Although everyone needs everything, identifying the necessity cannot be done by everyone! Success of any business in the contemporary scenario is mainly dependent upon identifying the necessity and addressing it in quick time. Some of the innovations amaze us. They appear as if they are very small ideas but the way they serve the purposes deserves applauds. One of such is observed by me and few colleagues today at a hotel. 

The below image shows the buttons present on the stand kept on every table of the hotel. the buttons are self explanatory. With the use of this, we can call the waiter, ask for water, demand the bill or call for an assistance! Calling the waiter to me appeared similar to that of calling the air-hostess by pressing the service buttons on the head panel in flights. In a busy restaurant at peak times, getting the waited to our desk is very difficult as making eye contact with the waiter itself needs lot of time! Getting the bill generated is yet another big task. It appears as if the hotel staff have decided to let us wait for another meal! But if the bill button on the panel shown is pressed, the signal goes to the bill desk. Any unintended press of the buttons can be cancelled by pressing the 'cancel' button. 

I've seen this type of a device for the first time and was stunned at the first instance. Then I along with my colleagues explored it quickly! Couple of queries were clarified by the waiter! Logical minds keep questioning, whatever is the topic about and wherever is the place! 

Machine cannot insist a man work. Even in this case, the discipline and the load of the waiter plays a major role. We realized this towards the end of our mean as we proceeded to call the service and bill. Pressing the 'Service' and "Bill' for multiple times did not help, as the waiter was loaded with too many tables and there was crowd too! Better utilization of the said sophisticated device could have been done in a better way by appointing enough waiters per tables. But however, the acceptance of the idea of placing the said device on each table is appreciable! 

Only time can... Take Home #440

Only time can answer certain questions. Only time can heal certain wounds. Wait and just wait! But make sure that your way of waiting is not being understood as your helplessness! It's your responsibility to set the context right that you are waiting being hopeful and not being helpless. 

Genuine appreciation... Take Home #439

Receiving appreciation inspires. Giving appreciation satisfies. But both of these can be enjoyed to their fullest only when they are genuine. Be as genuine as you can while appreciating anyone. And be as attentive as possible to any appreciation so that you can identify the genuineness and hence enjoy! 

The landscape... Pic of the day #12

As I said in an earlier post, landscape photography is my interest. Since a few months, that has become my hobby too. Thanks to my Moto G! 

Our office is located near by hilly area. Its mostly surrounded by concrete buildings but on one side, there are hills as shown in the below picture. It's taken on a cloudy day. Landscapes interest me and when it's cloudy, I'm almost uncontrollable from taking photographs. Each click gives me immense happiness that I become childlike for a few moments. It feels a lot joyful from within!

I've been seeing the mountains in the picture for almost five years now. Every time I look at them, I feel like going to them. What they say as "The mountains are calling!". They really seem calling me. In fact, I've told my friends a number of times that I feel like going to the mountains right now. Don't know why, but. They inspire me every day morning when I look at them while standing on the terrace after breakfast. Since last five years, I've been looking at them in the mornings along with different colleagues and friends as many of my friends have resigned from out company. I used to look at the mountains with few of my close mates few years back. And today I look at them along with some other friends. But every time I stand alone and look at them, I realize how much I miss my close friends there. I feel like I look at my friends, every time I look at the mountains. Literally, this is what I feel! Again, don't know why! May be, certain things remain as the icons of sweet memories of our loved ones. I love these mountains and this landscape!