Turbulence & kids - ParenthoodDiaries #96

Last week, while I was traveling by flight, there were few moments of semi-severe turbulence mid-air. Naturally I got terrified and could find equally or more frightened faces in the seats next to me.

In those moments, the faces of my kids ran across my mind and then suddenly I made a failed attempt to control my laughter.

I imagined what my kiddos would do if they were around, in such moments. I was sure that once the plane started jerking, they would start laughing loudly while looking at each other. They would enjoy the bumpy ride in their perceived huge toy plane, unaware of the consequences. It would have been almost impossible to stop them from being out of context.

Imagining all this had lightened my mood amidst the turbulent ride through the skies.

Well, ignorance is a bliss and life keeps giving us the respective anecdotes every now and then!

The information bomb is real - ParenthoodDiaries #95

The "Information bomb" is real!!

Despite being automotive professionals, neither Ravi nor I ever spoke to Bharat & Bhuvan about car manufacturers or cars in general.

Recently, while we were travelling, we showed them different logos of vehicles on the road and that they were either from Tata Motors, Maruti Suzuki, Mahindra & Mahindra, Hyundai, Toyota, Honda, Skoda etc.

As they showed interest, I extended the conversation and said - "Maruti is from India and Suzuki is from Japan". One of them immediately asked - "Amma, Tata is from India, then where is Motors from?"!!!

Well, after listening to us talking about different car brands said above, one of them asked us to the deepest of our surprise...

"Why don't we have either Lamborghini or Buggati with us? They are high speed cars".

"Information bomb" is real and it's going to have it's blast in the years to come. All that we can do is to teach children how to deal with information that they keep hearing or reading from you know where.

Kids live in the moment - ParenthoodDiaries #94

It's true that kids live in the moment. Here is my funny experience with it.

At times kids call me when I'm in the office, from their dad's or care giver's phone.

They ask - "what are you doing?"

I say - "I'm working"

Then I ask back - "what are you doing?"

They say - "we are talking to you".

These answers have been consistent for many times now!!

Our brain is sharpened too - ParenthoodDiaries #93

Talking to kids sharpens our brain from time to time! I realized it again after this morning's chat with my boys.

They wanted to go for swimming, but it was raining. They knew that I wouldn't agree.

One of them said - "Amma, I saw a dream last night that we both were swimming in the pool while it was raining".

Immediately I said - "I saw a dream too that you both swam in rain and then caught cold and cough".

Discussion was over

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Our dear friend, Orkut!

I opened www.orkut.com to see what happens next. To my surprise, the below appeared.

This was the place where we connected with our friends in 2005-2008 timeframe. Those were the times of my final year un engineering and a couple years in masters. 

We used to write testimonials as well. I regret that I do not have a copy of the testimonials some of my dear friends wrote in those days. It would have been nice to have them. We never realize how soon technology can change, social connect platforms can change. Best is to be prepared to lose the information on the social media platform and save as much as we can so that the memories can be cherished. 

Difficult paths - Take Home #686

I wonder sometimes, if the difficult paths are the right paths or is it that the difficult paths turn out to be the right paths due to the realizations that occur to people on the way! In any which case, difficult paths are often the right paths. 

We happen to be what we are - Take Home #685

We happen to be what we are a lot of times. Critical aspects of life are not in our control. No one succeeds alone or no one fails alone. We must do things together by appreciating the people walk into our lives, although that may not be is a perfect companion all the time. We happen to be what we are and so is that they happen to be what they are. Respect and move on! 

Reimagining - Take Home #684

Reimagining ourselves need guts to face the facts about ourselves, our weaknesses. Building a legacy needs us to reimagine ourselves time to time.

Celebrity worship must end.

A question was asked after Australia winning the cricket World Cup 2023 - Why was no one there to welcome the winning team as they returned home, along with that famous photo of Pat Cummins going almost unnoticed?

A question is being asked now, after the stampede in Bengaluru, outside the Chinnaswamy stadium - why so much craze for a club cricket team?

We must ask ourselves more questions...

Why so much craze for cricket, isn't it just another sport? 

Why so much craze for cricketers, aren't they similar to any other athlete who sweat it out?

Is an Olympic medal not worth celebrating as a cricket world cup trophy?

What's so much about celebrities, aren't they similar to us who battle everyday out?

Why do we invest ourselves in taking sides of our favorite celebrities, waste of a lot of time and we gain nothing positive out of it personally?

Why do we worship the players or actors or any other celebrities? How do they matter in our lives - we have a family to feed and we have our individual selves who need to be explored fully. 

I think it all starts with that basic human trait - Being curious about others while forgetting the essence of our individual selves.

Why do we exist? 

To worship somebody unknown or to know our individual selves in totality and live life to the fullest?

No doubt that we must get inspired from certain people, who display extraordinary qualities like tenacity, grit, consistency, discipline, being grounded, resilience, resolute etc. But we must keep it up to getting inspired, not worshipping anyone so much that we forget ourselves and our people.

Coming to the recent mishap for a while, what's more alarming than the stampede itself are a few facts...

The fact that the celebration inside the stadium continued despite the deaths occurred outside. 

The fact that the majority of the victims were under 20 years and they had not informed their parents before visiting the stadium.

The fact that there was no anticipation of the possibility of a huge crowd turning in for the celebration, despite the unending fireworks went around the city the night before!

The fact that the celebrities are back to normalcy, headed to their homes inside and outside India, and some people who worshiped those celebrities will never return home, leaving their parents in the deepest sorrow of their lives. 

The recent stampede is only a manifestation of why celebrity worship is ugly. It's not the time to divert ourselves by throwing it on the government or system or RCB management or players or bureaucrats or politicians. 

It's the time to ask ourselves the right questions, and sort out the priorities of our lives with utmost responsibility. 

So, can we totally change how things are? Can we change the craze for celebrity worship? 

Yes, we can start changing it by only starting to change our individual selves. 

The world appears to us not how it is, but how we perceive it is. Say no to celebrity worship; once we internalize this, the world starts showing us our responsibilities and the essence of our lives. Then it's up to us how we take things ahead and make our lives meaningful. 

Cricket is indeed an emotion, in India!

Cricket is indeed an emotion in India; a dear emotion that we embrace lovingly with a billion hearts.

Congratulations RCB for the fantastic win @TATA IPL2025 and PBKS for a tremendous display!

Few words, for few people...

Always standing behind the PBKS team in every thick and thin, encouraging them with a pure smile - Preeti Zinta, just take a bow lady!

Everything seemed over. The opponents started celebrating, crying. Team mates had no motivation to encourage. But one player stood alone, hit the boundary after the boundary, made 22 runs against the 29 needed in the last over. What a grit, what a player - Shashank Singh walked away in tears after the match, but did everything right to feel proud of himself.

Last season's winning captain was surprisingly let go by his franchise, and in the immediate next season, he led his new team to finals from a different franchise that bestowed confidence in him, he stood tall in major wins of the season for his team - Shreyas Iyer, something is very special about this player, the name to watch out more for. Kudos captain!

One of the best players the sport has produced, emotional and brilliant personality who needs no introduction, winning the 1st IPL title in the 18th attempt - Virat Kohli, the player who has been scripting history. Hearty congratulations champion!

Cricket is indeed an emotion in India; a dear emotion that we embrace lovingly with a billion hearts.

Famous people - ParenthoodDiaries #92

One day Bharat and Bhuvan came to me, after learning the meaning of the word 'famous'.

"Amma, we want to see who are famous people, show them on your phone"

I said - "Ok, i will show, but tell me what Amma is famous for.."

One of them said, "Umm...Amma is famous for cooking, playing with us and going to the office".

I then opened google and kids said over voice "famous musicians"... We started seeing the photos of famous people.

Then ..

"famous dancers"...

"famous doctors "...

"famous basketball players"...

"famous tennis players"...

"famous football players"...

Then came the turn of cricket. What kids said surprised me to the core!

They said... "Famous Virat Kohli"...

How deeply some players leave their mark on the sport they play! Amazing and inspiring.

I always tell kids that the sport is bigger than any player, I mean I tell them in a simple language that 7 year olds can understand. But they hear a lot from their friends in school and housing society that it's difficult to keep them away from idolizing any person. I will continue to try though.

June 1st - The global day of parents

During the COVID-19 lockdown, I read a real-life story about a single-mother of eight children, cooking stones in an utensil to make her hungry children believe that the food would be served soon. She thought that the children would eventually sleep while waiting for the food.

It's so heart wrenching even now, when I think about it after many years, that how helpless the mother would have felt when she couldn't feed her children. And the extent that she went to manage her hungry children. This is her story.

Likewise, every parent has a story, which is unique and should never be compared with any other's.

I wonder and admire all that the parents go through while raising the children, or should I say, what not that they go through!

Sometimes children realize what parents do for them, many times they would never know! All that children can do is, to give back. Love. Warmth. Time. Friendship. Care. Whatever and whichever that can be given back!

Some of us are parents but everyone of us is a child, who owes a lot to our parents. Towards our parents, we are responsible more than what we think we are; for them, we are bound to do more than what we do.

Work is at its place; it needs to be at its place. We must keep giving our parents the beautiful moments, that they deserve and we owe.

Systems Engineering and Motherhood -ParenthoodDiaries #91

Systems Engineering and Motherhood - It's as if they probe each other within me to bring interesting realizations into my notice.

Many years ago I worked for developing car's Body Control Module - the ECU that's famously known for always dealing with more than what it is supposed to!

I remember the days when I and my team members used to debate amongst us, further heavily with the suppliers, about what all ways the paper based label that's pasted on BCM's housing could get destroyed.

What if someone splashes hot tea at it?

What if the ECU's temperature rises suddenly and how it shall still stick to the ECU's housing?

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What if someone does this, and that, and what not?

After many years, one day during our road-trip, one of my kids casually bent under the dashboard, removed the label from our car's BCM (the same one that I worked for, by the way) and he then stick it in my palm. This was never a use case in our debates back then!

Once the label was removed, I could never place it back as perfectly as I thought we had made it to be!

Thank you RAFA!

 For one last time, I watched a live tennis event! Thank you RAFA!

Operation Sindoor - bravo, the Indian Armed Forces

Brilliance. Bravery. BHARAT. I proudly salute to the high standards of professional excellence displayed by the Indian Armed Forces.

The pink beauty from our garden!

 

The Rubik's Cube - ParenthoodDiaries #90

Summer holidays are the best part of childhood. Our boys are having a blast these days. One of them is particularly after the Rubik's Cube. It's great to see their appetite to do new things!! 

English is fun - ParenthoodDiaries #89

 English is fun at times.

We were trying to teach English to Bharat & Bhuvan. In that process, my husband asked them one day - "What is your mother tongue?"

One of them replied - "My mother tongue is in my mother's mouth"

Later, when we explained them what mother tongue is, they asked - "ok, then what is father tongue?"

What would I say, well, I said - "Only mother tongue is considered, there is nothing like father tongue"

They were like - "Why only girls have tongue on their name, why not boys?"

Now this adds to their growing list of such questions, another one has been - "Why only girls can deliver small babies, why not boys

?".

I'm realizing that we cannot keep gender away really, though we don't want kids to feel any gender differentiation.

 I visited the Olympic Museum in Switzerland, a few months ago. There was a little souvenir that caught my attention with the following written on it - "The struggle is noble".

Although the quote was intended for the Olympians, I could pretty much relate to it in no time.

At times, we strongly want certain things to happen to us. However, we also feel nervous about them happening, since they come with humongous responsibilities. The nervousness kicks in deeper, when we realize the hard fact that there would be a lot of circumstantial support needed, with a lot of struggle en route.

What helps us to fight out the nervousness is our ability to internalize the noble outcome of the struggle; our strong belief that "It's worth it". Once we internalize it, we are ready for the face-off. Come what may, we find out the ways to execute our responsibilities, one at a time or all at once!

Systems engineering and motherhood! - ParenthoodDiaries #88

 Systems engineering is continuing to deepen within me, courtesy my motherhood journey.

Every single time I'm vague in telling things to my kids or when I just go with implicit understanding, they ask me to specify.

"Amma, do you need us to get 5 things or 6 things?"

"Do you want us to come back home within 30 minutes or 45 minutes?"

"No, it's not black colour, it's a grey shade"

"It's not 10'o clock, it's 10 hours 10 minutes"

"Why didn't you say you meant 'Eyes'' and not 'Ice'?"

"Why didn't you say that the wall-clock would break if I hit a sixer?"

"What do you mean the sunrise happened, is the sun at 15 degrees or 30 degrees now?"

As the kids grow, the depth of their questions is growing! I'm certain of a great difficulty, but a beautiful ride ahead.

I wonder how closely merged 'life' and 'work' are, and how easy it is to hit the balance if we get habitual to look at them in the right perspective, if not always but a majority of times!

Our dear friend, Orkut!

I happened to open www.orkut.com, just to see what happens next. I got pleasantly surprised to see the home page, as also shown below. 

Hope they build something interesting again, some social place for more personal connections and meaningful chats!

School with only 6 students! - ParenthoodDiaries #87

There was a banner tied in front of a school, showing the photos and names of the top scorers.

We stopped our car next to that banner, due to traffic.

I was hearing my kids reading the names of students written on the banner. After reading all the six names mentioned on it, one kid told the other - "See, this school has only 6 students, aiyyoo..very few students!!".

It never occurred to me this way because my mind had been trained to see the top rankers being felicitated all the time. But my kids never faced a question from either me or anyone from our family (yet) asking - " Who came first in class?", "How many marks your friend has scored", bla bla.

I'm glad they haven't yet experienced the competitive side of the education, but are undergoing constant learning and enjoying their early schooling period.

Sand art with kids - ParenthoodDiaries #86

It was fun doing the sand art with kids this weekend. Their enthusiasm and energy made me recall a few memorable moments spent in childhood with my cousins doing the similar art.

Thanks to the thoughtful toy making companies for bringing up beautiful engagement activities for kids. Much needed in the digital 'Gen Z' era!

Market day and Mysuru palace - ParenthoodDiaries #85

My kids have learnt that money can be earned by doing work.

Recently they participated in "Market Day" in their school, where they sold fruit salad.

Later when we visited Mysuru Palace, I asked them if they would buy me a house like the Palace.

They said - "yes, we will buy it for you. We already have some money from the market day in school. And we will do many such market days. We will buy the palace when we grow".

Pure thoughts!!!

Planet Parade 2025 - ParenthoodDiaries #84

It was a memorable experience for me showing kids the "planet parade".

They kept asking..

"Which is that planet?"

"Where is Saturn?"

"Where is Uranus?"

"Is it Jupiter?"

"Are these planets about the earth?"

"What is inside the earth?"

"Where is Pluto?"

"When will the earth stop rotating?