The ability of kids to be adaptable - ParenthorDiaries #33

"Past is past", "Live in the moment", "Moving on" etc. I think kids are the best among human species to practice these in their truest sense, hence are the happiest ones. Their adaptability is admirable.

You might have your own and unique experiences with kids, I'm sharing few of my own.

They had been drinking milk in bottles for years. I used to get worried how much time it might take to get them rid off that habit. Recently, one day I decided to give them milk in glasses instead. They drank without any complaint. I threw away the bottles the next day. Every since, that have been drinking in glasses.

My parents were here in Pune for summer vacation. Kids spent most of the time with them, played with them alot. They wouldn't stay a moment without asking for their grand mother especially. The younger one used to say he would go to our native with his grand parents. They were sleeping when my parents left. It's been 4 days since my parents left. Kids asked about them only once, literally, that too very briefly. It's exactly the opposite of what I thought the situation would be.

Having spent lot of time together with me during the Pandemic, I thought it would be difficult for them to stay away from me. My maid tells me that when I go to office, kids ask once or twice about me, that too occasionally, and they play peacefully the rest of the time. That sounds like a soothing music to my ears which makes me happy (and pinches me too sometimes!). I'm sure that's how it sounds for every working mother.

I'm inspired by their adaptability. How quickly they get adjusted and move on with life, with the current moment. For them, past is past. As we grow, we keep remembering things, more so the ones that hurt us from the past. If only we learn to move on, we learn to let past be the past and not intervene in our present, we will be more productive, more adaptable, and we will be the happier species too.

I have started practicing it.

Percentage of devotion towards work!

From a book by Dale Carnegie Institute: 

"The average person puts only 25 percent of his energy and ability into work. The world takes off its hat to those who put in more than 50 percent, and stands on its head for those who devote 100 percent".

In my career I have come across seeing colleagues who belong to each of the categories. I have been one myself who had to play it differently under different circumstances, under different leaders, and for different projects. I believe we all come across similar experiences in our work-life. 

Fact is fact, the circumstances that are impacting our thought process, physical or mental well boing are known to us only. What happens between us and the leaders under whom we work is known to us and not to anyone else. How some projects motivate us and how some don't is known to us. All these cannot be known to the ones who are judging us or assessing us, constantly. Especially when we have been great performers at the beginning of our careers, any impact either the circumstances, leaders or different projects may have on us is the weak-link that mostly leads to questioning our integrity towards work. It's all different for different individuals, hence do not want to generalize further. And it's nothing wrong with the people who judge or assess us based on our performance. After all, what's seen is what's appreciated, although what's done is not always what's seen! 

I doubt if discussing things openly will help. It might further worsen the situation. We must let the time pass and comeback to our fullest performance all by ourselves. Everything is within us. The external factors like the ones said above can impact only temporarily. Its all up to us as to how we wish and work towards developing and growing ourselves.

The Joy & Pain - Take Home #677

The pain of understanding certain things is deeper than not understanding them. The joy of not understanding certain things is greater than understanding them. And the vice versa is true too. It's our choice, to go for pain or joy. We might not have that choice too in some circumstances! All that we can do is to train ourselves to face the joy and pain with grace and perseverance.

What the COVID-19 Pandemic has taught me the most?

The things the we do not do otherwise, either because we do not want to do or we think we cannot do, we make them happen either when we 'need' them or when we 'have to' do them.

First rains of this monsoon season, at Pune!

 

Louder bikes - ParenthoodDiaries #31

I never liked the louder bikes. Now I have started disliking them, especially when they pass by while kids are asleep at night. Use of sound for no good!

Our home garden!

On this year's world environment day, i.e. yesterday 5th June, we added few more plants to our home garden. And that brings it to a total of 55 types of them. Happy to share the glimpses of our indoor and outdoor plantations.

This is the hobby I developed during Pandemic. Two close-mates have inspired me through this. One is my mom Ravi Nageswari and another is my dear friend Sudha Kondepati.