Spend some time for yourself, just for yourself...!

My basic intention of posting this stuff here is that I really want you to go back and have some time spent for yourself, just for yourself and enjoy the eventual magical moments you go through. Oops, I’ve not just meant that you never had those moments spent for yourself. But I do believe that in the recent times where our circumstances are driving our thinking and life styles, I would not mind saying that we are not taking care of ourselves despite of saying ‘take care’ or ‘tc’ to every friend at the end of a chat.

Well, when I say, that we are not taking care of ourselves I don’t mean from the sense of physical appearance or healthy food habits, as the beauty care tips are having their own good existence along with various centers to explain the healthy food habits and their significance. We all have to take care of the most important cubicle of our body, i.e. our mind.

I don’t think I’m required to mention various ways of taking care of our minds as the websites compete like none to give you the information. Rather I just want to let you all know that spending some time just for ourselves in a day, in a week, in a month, in an year makes us empowered to take care of our own people in a far better way, and which I feel is the best way of the bests to take care of ourselves.

** Go to a shopping mall alone… just think about yourself… think about your own needs… pick the items… come out with a bag full of items which you like and only for you…

** Go to a book shop alone… pick up the books of your own interests…

** Go to a gift shop like the famous Archies, alone again… Enjoy doing rounds in between the neatly placed beautiful gifts… pick up something which you would love to have on your writing table or on your bed room wall…

These are the classic examples of the places where we regularly go either to get something for home needs, to buy something to present to a friend etc ad generally we go along with somebody. But when we visit such places alone and get the things just for ourselves, we feel all together better which can not be explained so easily. I did it couple of times and I’m out of words when I have to express the after effects.

Not just that, wake up early in the morning… do whatever you love… just spend some time for yourself and your day will be cool…

Sleep early in the night… just think about yourself… and take rest…

It is nothing illogical or selfishness. It is quite logical though. We love ourselves the most, who is ready to debate? When we spend time for ourselves we feel a kind of completeness in our expectations which makes us live with a positive outfit to spread out the joy and love to our loved ones in a far better way. And no question of selfishness here as we all believe that when we love something we are ready to do anything for it; when we love ourselves we must do something special for ourselves.

So friends, try it out. Have some time exclusively for yourself in your day to day life and enjoy the fruits of completeness.

KG to PG...Letters to Facebook...All about being in touch!!

How long has it been since you wrote a letter to a friend?

What does it indicate when the 200^th friend’s spot of your Facebook profile gets filled by a person whom you know for eleven years but with whom you last spoke five years ago?

What makes you recollect the sweet mutual promises made between you and your friend in slam books of each other to be in touch?

How old were you when you had last chat with your long lost childhood friend?

Do the questions deserve your time to think? I think so considering the above-average long title of the post and the new trends in the communication system. Read on!

Recently I checked a survey asking people if they like school days or college days. Choice made by the people who responded to it didn’t surprise me as half of them chose school days and the other half ended up in choosing the college days. No matter what, the days of being student are memorable always most likely because of the friends we are covered with. Be it the rain games played during childhood, be it the quick exchange of looks during the adulthood, be it the mass-bunking days of college life, or be it the night outs on exam days, every single moment involves very good friends of us right through.

Being in touch with friends is I would say is ‘an art’ and that too right since the beginning till date. Once it used to be a hand written letter that was the medium between hearts if not otherwise the direct dealings. And now, what it takes a person away from being in touch with friends? It is just his own interest; and otherwise he is done. Best examples could be many in fact we, ourselves, when we decide to come in contact with our friends what not helps us in the world of internet to get succeeded!

However, there are some areas in which the dependency of friends who want to be in touch is inevitable. Of course, what else can be a best example for this case than friends who lost their contacts with each other and that too for no reason? At the same time, who can stop them from being felt happy once the relation is resumed all again? That’s the magic of the eternity called friendship.

Well, I think all of us are enough experienced in this regard to understand this topic to the core. Finally I want to come to the point. It is long over due that I need to thank ‘Facebook’ and the people who spur me to take up the account there. It’s been wonderful so far over here in my blog too with the acknowledgements of many of my good old friends reaching me all in smiles.

Kinder garden to the post graduation I have had lots of friends whom I came across and I’m more than happy as I’m remembering all of them through this post of course with the help of my latest full-time job ‘Facebook’.

It becomes very difficult when I have to accept the fact that it has been three years that new friends of my life entered as part of my professional life. I’ve never known how the time moved on! So far so good! I want to wait and see what’s in store!

Now, this post being my 400^th, what else can be a better time than remembering all of my good friends here?

Thank you dear friends for all your support right through.

The ‘Risk’ factor… Take Home #49

It may not be possible to be succeeded every time we risk; but for sure, the biggest success follows the biggest risk we take.

PS: Hi friends, I’m really sorry for the wrong information given in my previous post that it was 399^th. In fact it was 398^th. Blame my memory for forgetting one draft post I have had dated three years back!

Any way, 400^th post is right after this one. Thank you.

Inspiration from the past… Take Home #48

Getting inspired from one’s own past achievements is undoubtedly the best way to choose when it is being felt that all most all doors are closed for the future. Looking back once in a while is not a bad idea if it is not for stepping back.

PS: I was out of ideas for my favorite short posts. I thought I would check my previous posts to get back to the touch. And here is the result in the form of my 399^th post.

Limit of diplomacy…

Sometimes, to pass on the moment we speak or rather we try to be diplomatic and get the maximum out of the words what we can say to the other person. No doubt that it works most of the times unless it is a diplomatic listener whom we are talking to. Either way at least to pass the moment on, there would not be a better idea and of course not just to pass on the moment but at times we really need to be so to get away with the ongoing situations such that our helplessness doesn’t make it even worse.

But then, when we do it repeatedly until it happens that there comes a day or time when no word can satisfy the other person who is used to the stuff of somebody who can turn their own words, simply, there could be no better worse situation than this to face!

Talking to people is very important. Only discussions can keep people together. Of course, but this can end up on positive note only when the limit of diplomacy does not get exceeded too many times for too much extent. This shall be remembered all the time to keep up the spirits considering the fact that the limit varies from person to person and situation to situation.

Emotions and relations…

Emotions keep the relations longer and tighter; use every chance to express your emotions towards your people.

Emotions when I say, I’m not just ticking the positive ones, but the negative ones are under scanner too. By negative I mean the anger, sadness etc which are most expressive than the positive emotions such as happiness. We often hear people saying that happiness gets doubles when it is shared and sadness gets halved in doing so.

Well, I would like to add something in here. Sharing the emotion like anger not only leaves you less irritated for the moment, but for your partner it is the moment to understand what you are. It of course makes you little concern afterwards for what you did when you were down, but I would say it is more advantageous to be what you are. It may not be possible all the time but it is definitely possible when we read the situation nicely. To get the situation under control in such conditions it takes whole hearted efforts from both the persons involved.

Emotions play an important role in keeping up the relations. The more we understand this the better we maintain them.

Once in a life time post… I hope not!

It has been long time that pictures have inspired me to write here in my blog. And today I’m right back here on this special occasion of India winning the coveted title of The World Cup.

Right away on to the matter…

What a shot! Gateway of India and India’s favorite son with the most wanted cricket world cup; what an incredible wait this guy has been undergone for this beautiful moment! Finally it has happened shouldering down the tremendous pressure he had been accepting proudly for years now. Sachin Tendulkar’s medals tally is complete.

An effortful tournament with his solid captaincy would have been ended up on slightly low note had he not performed well under pressure in the world cup final on home soil before home crowd! Well deserved Man of the match and really the man of the coolness, Mahendra Singh Dhoni is the part of Indian legends list irrespective of what’s going to happen in the years to come in his cricketing career.

Man of the tournament’s life was never easy before the world cup. Dhoni’s confidence brought him back in team. Coming back in to the team straight away in the world cup, performing well always when needed made him special match winner. The reddened and eyes full of tears of him explained how important it was to be determined till the win. Well done champ!

India’s most respectful cricket coach now has become the proud member of the world cup winning squad. The South African who came from the team named as chokers had wonderful memories with his Indian boys carried him in the ground. Gary knows it better how it feels to lose the momentum in crucial matches being in the South African squad and now he ensured Indians stay tuned.

Indian Media, which I feared sometime back, that it would probably, disturbs the team either by shouldering them or by scolding them. At the end, the team has emerged as winners and the news papers have all the space booked to express the nation’s connectivity to the game of cricket. Thank you media for the memorable coverage!

It is not only that Sachin has got the deserved moment for all the hard work he did, well-known spectator, Sudhir Gautam, one of Sachin’s life-time fans has also added the beautiful moment to his own tally, again for all his hard work he did to be the brand ambassador of the little master waving the Indian flag high. It is the proudest moment not just for the little master but for this man too.

Proud father is often seen, but here the story is different. These are the proud children of a great cricketing maestro enjoyed their moments as the crowd was cheering their father their heart out. I hope and wish Sachin would appear again in pictured being a proud father of his children. All the best Sara and Arjun! I’m sure Sachin would have missed his love Anjali Tendulkar out there!

Not every time we get chance to express ourselves on the wonderful things and that’s why I titled this post as ‘Once in a life time post…’! Definitely I cherish these moments but I hope these wouldn’t be the once in a life time. I wish I would write many more of such posts being inspired by such wonderful victories, yet again.

All formal words to Team India:

Thank you for the memories.

Congrats for the victory.

And last but not the least,

All the best for future.

India – The World Champions

No words for now.

Most memorable moments have been experienced by whole Indians, once again in the form of the ODI world cup. I’m glad that I’m one of them.

Thanks to Team India and Special mention to Sachin Tendulkar.

Enjoy guys!!

Who said Cricket is a batsmen’s game?

When the team we support bats-

The Expectation: Every ball shall see the boundary

The Threat: Every ball can get the wicked down

When the team we support bowls-

The Expectation: Every ball shall get a wicket down

The Threat: Every ball can see the boundary

See, whole lot about BALL here… Who said Cricket is a batsmen’s game?

And a BIG LoL…!!!

On an April Fools’ Day…

How eager were we

Awaiting this day

To make fool out of everyone

Keeping everything else away

How conscious we used to be

To escape becoming a fool

On the most smiling day

To stand tall at the end of the day

Whole school used to gossip

On the list of fools for the day

Does not matter who made whom

Enjoyment used to be a smile away

Those childhood days are the best

Nothing can replace them

Nothing can bring them back

But we have memories to cherish

And

That’s fair enough though!

India...India...!!!

I don’t think I can have a sound sleep tonight. Finally it is India in the finals of the ICC WC’11 to take on Sri Lanka, another strong team and a big hurdle I would say. For the moment let us forget the rest and concentrate on the celebrations!! Pakistan lost yet again to India under pressure. It was nice to see the prime ministers being seated next to each other and clap for their own countries. Hope for the best on the better relations between the two countries.

Wow... what an evening I had! Sharing the happiness with my roommates, clapping for the Indian players, and most specifically my face book page and the friends out there made it even more memorable. Thanks to all of them! How can I forget to mention this special man, who has given every nerve of him to the Indian cricket, Sachin Tendulkar! What can I say? They say it would be his last world cup and probably the final might be his last ODI, and still he is the man of the match. The passion that he has got wide open many hearts to feel the power of a person’s wish and will. Congratulations Sachin! The scene of the day was to watch this man getting excited after the win as if it was his first of it’s kind. Of course it is, but you can understand what I meant!

Dhoni has narrowly escaped the worried blessings of the analysts and cricket fans for his decision of excluding Ashwin, who did wonderful job the other day. Well, Dhoni is not a new lad to this extravaganza. He can deal it well, tough guy, isn’t he? Well, on the whole a good team effort was awarded the victory tonight. I’ve nothing to say about the final as of now. Let us think about it on 2nd of April. For tonight, its all celebration time! Enjoy guys.

Mistakes... Take Home #47

Mistakes are mistakes whether they are happened knowingly or unknowingly. Handling with the misakes and facing their after effects are not the games that every one can play and win. At the end of the day, the biggest challenge ramains is to forgive yourself; at the same time it is the biggest headache too, being practical.

Worried? Be choosy…

Share and the pain gets halved. But be very careful in choosing right people to share. Who knows? Wrong choices may leave you even more devastated!

Being commented?

The more a person is being commented the stronger he becomes. Then there comes a day when no comment can affect his caliber instead it brings out his best capability. So, be positive if you are being commented. And, commentators… beware guys!

Healthy Competitor...

Healthy competitor tries to enhance his own confidence levels by preparing himself well for the fight rather than trying to affect the competitor’s confidence with his doings or wordings. Both the ways may result in a person’s success, but just the difference is that the satisfaction that the former brings to the heart is the most powerful. It helps one to be confident for the next encounters instead of thinking all the time about the next opponent and starting the proceedings once again.

What a wonderful week this has been…!!!

What else is desirable than surprising guests with even more surprising gifts throwing you an amazing birthday party?

What else can be expected than multiple cake-cuttings with all of your loved ones surrounding you and cheering you for many more happy returns?

What else can make you want to work more than your superior highlighting your efficiency which you have developed after working over months?

Last but never the least…

What else can make any cricket lover excited than witnessing an inspiring run-chase of your home team against the strongest opposition which has been unconquerable in three previous world cups?

But at the end, I must say that this wonderful week has seen a sad ending on a beautiful weekend evening by bidding adieu to the mighty South African team which is ousted from the ongoing world cup. I really want to see this team winning the world cup. It is all over for now for them! Come on, no good reason than today’s match itself that could make me so desperate!

To take out the positives for next week, I would first mention the highest hypo semi-final next week between India and Pakistan. And of course the final day of this world cup, let us see what’s in store for India!

There are two things I specially want to mention hereby.

** Had India lost the World Cup Quarter final to the Australians the most disappointed man on this earth for that night would have been…

** The biggest upset of this world cup is…

Of course, answering the second is easy as the final moments of the South Africans in this world cup would still be irreplaceable in many hearts. The biggest upset, for me, is the loss of South Africa to the New Zealand.

And for the first point, the most disappointed man on this earth would have been Sachin Tendulkar. I don’t know if you guys can agree with this or not, but I sincerely feel so.

I think it is enough of this for now. It is still long way to go. Hope for another memorable bunch of evenings next week!

Life Partner & the Reality…

Couple of months back I met a girl who has become a good friend of mine now. As I sit and just remembering those moments I spent with her sometime back, I remember us discussing about an interesting topic for our age group and i.e. understanding the life partner.

I’ll try to summarize our conversation of that day in my words here. Hope this will be interesting to think about!

A person can know himself/herself in a very different way than what his/her life partner knows him/her…

A person can be something to the whole world; but he/she can be something else to his/her life partner…

It is about understanding the person for what he/she is instead of going around the world to know about him/her makes the relationships perfect resulting in inspiring relationships and a good environment for the children to grow up as well.

Of course, I would say this need not only be applicable for the relationship of the life partners. But the same can be adapted to many other relationships as well.

Making people WANT to work… Take Home #46

I remember writing on ‘building a team of spirit’ in one of my earlier posts. Now, in continuation to the same post I would like to add the following.

The person who works is paid less in monetary terms than the person who makes people work. But the person who makes people want to work is paid even more in terms of respect and attention by his team than a person who just makes people work.

Confidential &Yummy…Yummy…!!

“What’s so confidential about it?”

I can’t exactly tell you how many times this question pops up in my mind every day, especially these days. Not just the confidentiality that matters but also the associated risk of losing somebody else’s capability that costs and probably counts.

Ok, now enough on it. Yesterday while I was returning home from work I was little upset, reasons unrevealed. I was clear on what was haunting me but I shall shut my mouth for now I guess. Any way, to come out of the trauma I thought I would have to do some different task in a different way altogether.

So, what to do? As a result of a whole lot of think-tank finally I boiled down on to preparing a cake with chocolate flavor. Cadbury keeps the pain away; chocolate lovers believe it and vendors pocket it. I learnt the recipe from my roommate who was away yesterday, may be the cake too missed her so much; and I learnt this fact when the preparation took more than double the time it normally takes.

And the cake was “Yummy…” after all I made it!

Still that could not stop me from shuttling between good and bad moods. So, what next? I kick started my think-tank bank all again. Suddenly I remembered the days of IIT and those late night stays. One of the most adorable tasks was to watch movies, late night shows by downloading them from the server which used to appear as if it was more informative than Google!

Remembering these, last night I started watching a movie exactly at mid night and slept later at the time which otherwise would have been my dreaming era. As I woke up today morning I was fresh and fully ready to go back to work all again.

And that’s the story of the Confidentiality and the Yummy…Yummy… Cake!

Not necessary to win always… Take Home #45

"It is not necessary to win always; but winning at just right times also can make the things work for you"

Remembering Hansie Cronje and the days of WC-1999

I was eleven years old when I was first introduced to the game called cricket. The first ever player I loved to watch out for was Sourav Ganguly, of course his good looks was the reason. My interest or may be I must name it my passion towards watching cricket reached it’s peak when the world cup started in England back in 1999.

I was just thirteen then and I must thank my parents who were very generous to me in allowing me to go on watching every match of the world cup who were otherwise very uninterested. In fact one of the biggest achievements I felt was the moment when I went to bed in disappointment as Indian team was losing it’s way against the then not-so-known Zimbabwe as my parents continued watching until they witnessed the disastrous defeat of India.

I don’t think any one on this earth know this except my mom that I didn’t turn up to my 10th class summer coaching classes the next day of that very famous defeat!! I felt the love and the understanding my mother had for me when she herself asked me if I was upset about the defeat and that was the reason behind my absence to the classes! Really, she is an awesome woman of my life.

Well, as the tournament progressed I started getting to know the other teams and players. It really helped me in answering the questions of the quiz competition at my school. The only other team I wanted to support from mid way through the tournament along side India was South Africa. And the biggest reason was the captaincy of Hansie Cronje. I know that I knew very little about the captaincy, leadership etc at that age of mine. But you know what I still stick to what I said. To me he appeared very solid both with his game and game plans. I could not even understand the commentary at that time either in English or in Hindi. I just knew this guy with his face and the emotions he displayed on field. Somehow I felt him genuine.

My support to Hansie Cronje and his men got doubled by the time of their famous semi-final match against Australia. That day’s historical tie and the followed heart breaking exit of the South Africa from the world cup made me wept like no other time so far. I shared bed with my mom that night, she probably knew that I was crying but this time she didn’t ask me.

There ended the world cup when the Australians lifted the cup after defeating the Pakistanis fascinatingly.

But my interest and the supportiveness towards the Hansie Cronje or the Team South Africa ever continued in such a fashion that even today I don’t believe in cursing Hansie for the way he rattled the cricketing world with his confession towards the match-fixing followed by a life ban. I still have the same respect, same love and same dedication in supporting him and the new South African team whenever they play. Obviously, his untimely death way back in 2002 left me blank for a moment.

As the match between India and South Africa in the ongoing WC’11 is going to take off the covers in few minutes, I dedicate this post to the great man and captain Hansie Cronje. He continues to be my idol despite of any negative news that can come up against him in future.

I await Team India’s convincing display today. Win can be of any one but I love these two teams, not equally but definitely.

Bollywood Break-Ups and the Breaking News!!!

Why the Bollywood break-ups shall be the breaking news as if there is nothing else which can break enough? Why such couple hit the headlines the next day featuring the whole untimely story?

Three reasons hit my mind after the ruthless thinking I’ve given for this. First and the foremost is the media, which has become the obvious choice for everyone to rebuke every now and then. Second one is pretty serious; it is the way the Bollywood people have been entertaining different business cases on the names of patch-ups and break-ups. And the third one is we, the readers who give enormous attention to such articles which obviously encourage the media to feel the responsibility in it’s coverage.

Media Make-up…

Media has become the life partner for everyone or I must say life-runner. Media coverage has got nothing to do with the difficulty, stress involved, and the urgency of the coverage; they do every silly thing to capture those shots or to get those words out from a celebrity. How can one just ignore the efforts of the media person, of course it is a whole different story that often they go wasted after the extravaganza?

Media can make up the outdated product as a brand new one, and so as the news on break-ups. Often they write, “A week back, X and Y decided to stop encouraging their so called relationship, for their personal reasons…”

Something has happened a week back, people involved in this must be settled by now, junta known nothing about it’s happening, but the only one who is unhappy with the way the things are is the media! They raise the curtain for another episode which can waste the time of people as it pulls them in to gossiping.

Now enough on what is happening. For me it appears like this. It is better for the media and for people to treat the personals of someone such that they won’t affect the way the things are moving for the people or for the society. One shall think twice before delivering such news. It is not only about the social responsibility but it is also about polluting someone’s mind, which is at good work, may be!

Bollywood’s business…

The less we talk the better we feel about the continuous streak of break-ups happening these days. The whole news on the start of relationship of two, and then the live-in relationship of those two, and then the movies they cast together seems utterly waste when the whole thing is named as a business case where in the duo have been promoting their films.

One can never know when a patch-up happens and the break-up follows. It all happens as if it itself is a real time “Live movie”. Major worry is not that it is not at all the world-loving Indian culture, but there is a big reason to worry and that is the way all such incidents affect the younger generations and their growing mindsets.

In my childhood, I used to read such news very rarely. Such news used to appear far away, geographically and mentally as well. But the way they are appearing every now and then in the news papers, TV channels will make the younger generation of today feel that they are quite surrounded by such incidents and may be they are also part of it, and eventually leading to the belief that they can also do it! And this is already proven in many cases of once so called “couples”.

However, it is never late to realize. It is better if the Bollywood cuties understand the real world apart from the movie mania. It is not only the moral responsibility, but it is also the social responsibility that they often point only in their words or in some charity organized functions. Everybody shall be extra careful in maintaining their relationships such that they would not become the show-stoppers.

The Reader’s attention…

I know can write very less under this heading. It is up to an individual’s own interest on what to concentrate upon and what not to. But, may be giving it a thought about our own interests will not be a bad idea once in a while. What we are interested about, what makes us exciting and what not etc are the most helpful questions for us and for the society as well. I agree that interests can not be killed but I believe that they can be analyzed and used in most effective ways.

Hope I made some sense here.

Lost In Thoughts...

Lost In Thoughts,
Of big moments to achieve;
Of the glory to enjoy;
Of the choices to make;
Of the world to celebrate me;

Really I was lost last night,
When I went to bed,
With uncontrollable thoughts,
With unknowingly hidden tears;
May be, it happens, at times!!

Mood swings are not new to me;
But this time it is different;
I’m unable to identify the worry,
And it’s the major problem,
Which need to be operated soon.

But I know,
I’ll be fine, soon.

Message @ Women's Day...

I often listen to this “The world is a better place because of the presence of a woman”. I completely agree and this one line can speak a million feelings.

On the eve of the International women’s day, I’ve a small message for all of you.

Men,
Recognize the efforts of the lady of your life.
Understand her way of expressing her love towards you.
Best love is ensured when you can understand the mood swings of her.
And always do remember,
Whatever you do, you can not give back the same what a girl/woman gives to you.

Women,
People of all kinds exist; just that the way everyone is different.
Never compare. Never humiliate unnecessarily.
Just understand, love and believe.
Respect what the world has given to you.
Be respected for what you only can give to the world.

I believe these lines so much. I often tell myself the same being a girl and proud to be so.

Happy women’s day to all the concerned.

Taking the advantage…

“What you see is what you believe”

Well quoted and true as well. Understanding this makes life much easier. Often we fail to realize the fact that we are actually facing difficulty in implementing this in our life styles. But, on the other hand most of the times this particular attitude solves many problems for us, because it is easy to believe than changing the happenings or surroundings.

No need to worry about a person’s comments when you believe that he does not mean it…

Not sounding easy… isn’t it?

Of course, it is not. But it is worth giving a thought for a while. I’ve really seen people who can do this easily in their lives. They are the true inspiration for this post.

Like anything else, there is a dark corner associated with this attitude as well. There is every chance that the people who can well understand such behaviour in others can take the advantage of this particular kind of humans. Now do not get me wrong. I don’t mean that every one who understand such behaviors take advantage, but definitely some do.

So it is not just important to understand the basics like the above quoted. But it is also important to be extra careful about such disastrous loop holes associated with the same.

It is worth thinking!