Choices & Lives - TakeHome #689

 Either we choose wisely, or we choose and grow wise! Life is progressive and rewarding in itself.

Like seasons, like twins! - ParenthoodDiaries #111

I once explained to Bharat & Bhuvan about the advantages and challenges of each season - Summer, Rainy, Winter and Spring. That was my attempt to tell them that every season had its own speciality.

Recently one day, one of them said - "Amma, like seasons, we also have plus and minus since we are twins".

Upon I asking what did he mean, he further continued - "Look, since we are two, the cookies and laddus get over fastly. And since we are two, whatever the handwork or crafts we prepare, we get double in number to showcase to everyone. So, we both are also like seasons".

Whatever the topic may be, children always have their own perspective out of their own little world! Its beautiful & healthy to observe and enjoy them.

Content bomb is the most powerful weapon of our times!

Content bomb is the most powerful weapon of our times, the trigger of which is in every fingertip. It entertains, it thrills but it also kills, not the person like speed does but the personality like nothing does.

I learnt from my seven year old children that their classmates had talked about an 'A' certificate film in their classroom, and few of the kids had watched it too.

On a national television channel, a 15 year old cricketer names an 'A' certified film as his favourite.

Entertainment reels gather more views than any other stuff on the social media. I bet any child will give back the mobile if we leave them to watch the reels. Forget about children, we grownups do not come out of them easily!

And this is not just about the current times.

Years ago, few children jumped off the high rise buildings thinking that Shaktiman would come to save them. Super heroes have always excited children. Franchises have cashed it big already.

Motion pictures have a larger impact on children. Watching a movie as a movie is a myth. Making children understand what needs to be captured from the content they watch is no more an easy deal.

There is just too much undesired content out there and we live with a false assumption that we will figure out how we make sure it doesn't reach our children!

It reaches. It does. Period.

Can the content be stopped from being created? Logically No. Content creators are making huge money out of what they make. Technically yes, but that needs a lot of things to happen together.

Can we stop children from watching the undesired content? Yes, but only to some extent which is not enough. The more we restrict, the more unknowingly we make them want it.

Can parents spend enough time with children to make them aware of the flip side of the content? We do not even have enough time and discipline to regulate ourselves from consuming the content.

At the same time, educational content helps children learn the moral senses, science, societal elements and language as well. However, there is no regulation on the educational content's generation. Somebody says something in a video and another video on the same topic says something else altogether. Not that always content developers are aware of the facts, after all they refer to the unregulated content as well to make their own stuff.

What can help us in providing good and informative content to our children? Here is what I think might help, to the best of my understanding.

Strong and clear regulations governed by the educators and bureaucrats, not politicians or influencers, help bring discipline to the content generation in the first place. Regulating the content consumption is technically doable but tricky to implement, not impossible though.

Whether parents like it or not, it's not our money but our discipline and integrity are our children's greatest assets. We must continuously try to mould ourselves into becoming the most accurate and influential voices in our children's ears. For that, we must assess what we should consume and what we should not. Assessing is half of the job but the other half, probably the tougher job, is to follow our assessment to consume the right content.

Change must start at home - the gravity of this statement is too good to ignore. None of us are perfect, but all of us have beautiful human instincts that have helped humanity to see newer possibilities. We must embrace our strengths and make sure that human evolution is on the right track, our children are the next generation and we are living in their world, hence we hold the responsibility to create and consume the right content.

Content bomb is the most powerful weapon of our times, the trigger of which is in every fingertip. It entertains, it thrills but it also kills, not the person like speed does but the personality like nothing does.

The list has just now begun - ParenthoodDiaries #110

Parents say certain things casually. Kids observe and learn them. The problem is, they do it briskly; we may not even notice what they are learning until they themselves showcase it all.

I used to tell Bharat & Bhuvan multiple times about how they must tell their mind to control itself, like when they want to eat more, play more or when they cry etc. The other day they asked me - "Amma, why hadn't you told your mind that you should not scold us?".

And my routine dialogue, around not able to make time to play much or tell stories on weekdays, is also inspiring them to say jokingly - "we don't have time to tell you what we learnt in school; we don't have time to tell you what we have done at our friend's place".

And the list has just now begun!

Life is about living - Take Home #688

 Death is about dying but life is about living, as if we die tomorrow but live on forever!

Anyway!!!

One of my recent reads that has stayed with me!!

******

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.

Be kind, anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it overnight.

Build, anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.

Do good, anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.

Give the best, anyway.

In the final analysis, it's between you and your conscience, anyway.

******

Miracles and their hide& seek!

There is always a chance for a miracle to happen. But miracles don't always happen. Between these two perspectives lies the crux of decision making in crucial times.

Belief and reality are two different aspects. Belief is not easily formed, but once formed it takes its own time to change. Reality is the rose is a rose is a rose. Both are powerful in their own way, winners in their own league and can work wonders on their own day.

One must neither sit back waiting for the miracle to happen, nor run around fearing the reality.

We have one life but not one chance! We must give our absolute best every time and be ready to learn the next time, if need be. Let the learning coming in by keeping the ball rolling. Rolling the ball doesn't guarantee a goal but afterall, keeping the ball on the roll enables the goal.

Believe that miracles happen.

Beware of their hide and seek.

Some smiles, we earn.

Some smiles, we earn.

When we appreciate the significance of the earned smiles, we tend to earn them more. It's just about being kind and empathetic in our communication, while maintaining what we are and doing what we are supposed to do.

When we respect the fact that everyone's story is different and unique, we internalize the kindness and empathy which come out naturally and genuinely when we communicate with others. There is no other trick to earn smiles, certainly by not running around to earn them!

At the same time, accept the fact that no one has ever earned everyone's smiles.

Say no to sarcasm! - ParenthoodDiaries #109

Recently one day I was having dinner while sitting in the kitchen. Bharat and Bhuvan were playing badminton in the living room. After the jam packed day, I was relaxing by scrolling through my mobile as I ate.

Earlier as well they saw me looking into mobile while eating and now they were seeing me doing it right in front of them as they played.

One of them said "Amma, look here, watch how we play the new technique we have learnt!"

I was reading something on the phone and routinely said - "Give me some time, I will watch in a while"

One of them replied innocently but straightforwardly, not to hurt but with an intention to give me the idea he got so that I could watch them - "Amma, just watch us thinking that we are also a video".

There was no sarcasm or ego in it but a pure intention to just make me observe them. I loved the whole episode.

Imagine we keep the sarcasm and ego aside and help each other, be kind and try to pull each other up with pure intentions - people become our family and the world becomes our home.

Landscapes waiting to get drenched!

The landscapes in Panchghani & Mahabaleshwar, Maharashtra, are waiting to go green again with the upcoming monsoon season! Here are the photos of a landscape taken in summer and rainy seasons, years apart!

Marriage and questions - ParenthoodDiaries #108

My boys have started to learn about marriage and the stuff around that. They have started saying things that grow the fun-temperature at home day by day!

The below are english translations and I know I wouldn't be able to bring in the soul of their original sentenses. I will try, nevertheless.

"Amma, why did you make your classmate as your husband? Classmates are friends, you should have looked for husband elsewhere"

"My twin brother should have been a girl. We both would have married each other and stayed together forever"

"Where would be my future-wife now? In which home she is growing up? Is my child already in her womb (Since I had said they were in my womb when they asked me why they were not present in my pre-pregnancy photos).

"Amma, in future you too search for a girl who would become my wife. She should be like.... (I don't want to translate what they said)"

"Will I also have twin kids in future?"

"Will I be living in another house after my marriage, like you are living here away from grand mom?"

And so many more are yet to be heard in future, I guess. I'm all up to let the fun-temperature go to any degree!!!